He Thought I Was Cheating
By: Heather
I came home late one night from being out with my girls. That was one of the worst decisions I made when I was with him. I got home around 11:00 PM and walked into the room of our one-bedroom apartment. Before I had the chance to tell him how my night went, he asked me for my phone. Confused, I asked him why. All he said was, “I know you were with him and I want to see the proof.” Of course, I had no proof because I didn’t even know who ‘him’ was. So, knowing that I was safe, and he wouldn’t find anything, I gave him my phone.
That was my second worst decision. In my phone were messages from my sister telling me how much she didn’t like my boyfriend treating me the way he does. Of course, being in such isolation with him, I never actually told my sister stories about what I was going through. However, she still knew that being detached from our family was not something I would willingly do. Anyway, when my boyfriend found those messages, he looked at me with so much disgust. And that was when it happened.
Before I had time to react, he grabbed me by the throat and threw me against the wall. I was on my toes, trying to keep my breathing under control. I started to get dizzy before he let me go. But then he threw me to the ground and said, “I knew you were incapable of loving me.” He then proceeded to bend my phone until it completely broke and threw it at my head. It ended up hitting me in the neck, causing me to have trouble breathing for a few moments. When he walked out of the room, I bolted for the door, leaving my shoes, wallet, and keys. I was able to contact my parents through one of my neighbor’s phone.
In the end: I left him right after that incident. I think part of it was my neighbor telling me how bad of a guy he was and how she knew there was something terrible about him. After some thought, I knew how right she was. I am still not healed from the incident. But I did learn a very important lesson. Someone who says they love you, shouldn’t hurt you. Someone who says they love you, should trust you. Someone who says they love you, shouldn’t isolate you from your loved ones or shouldn’t cause you pain for seeing your friends. I found my self-worth after that and focused on growing my relationship with my family. My family has proven to me that true love is being there for someone and understanding who they are, regardless of the situations they are put in.